At first I was kind of offended… not I’m starting to think they must be on to something.
Am I restless because I…
- want to move forward in my career? but also want the time to enjoy my young children?
- want to experience life “differently”, through travel or better yet, living and working in another country?
- can’t decide if I want another baby, to change jobs, change homes, etc…?
- want my life and my work to mean something? make a difference for someone?
- have big dreams? can imagine a completely different life?
- want to be admired and respected? (alright, there’s a little narcissism there, but… it’s the truth)
And if I am restless… then is it a bad thing?
I don’t know.
I do know that I had very specific ideas of where I planned to be before turning 30. I know that those plans were changed slightly when “surprise”, I was pregnant. As a young mom, I adore my girls but I no longer believe that you can do everything and be everything – a great mom, a successful professional, a loving wife and home-maker, a devout christian, a good daughter, sister, friend… There simply aren’t enough hours in a day. Let me rephrase… I may be good at all those things (or a few of those thing), but inevitably, when I try to be everything, something suffers, something falls through the cracks.
Maybe I’m just being cynical. Some moms out there certainly seem to be able to do it all.
Not this woman though. Despite the many “helps” I have…
It certainly helps me to have a husband who actively participates in the home and child raising. I don’t know how some women can do it on their own and my hat goes off to them for their perserverance, patience and strength.
It also helps to work in an environment where family values are respected and where there is flexibility.
And it helps to take the time to celebrate my personal and/or professional achievements – big and small.
Regardless, I somehow come out feeling like I’m still climbing a mountain, but I can’t see the summit. I don’t even have a map. How do I know I’m going the right way?
So what’s the cure for restlessness?